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Spending most of the day offline, but a few things to highlight:

Amazon's Deal of the Day nets you the complete Seinfeld on DVD for $39.99 (44% off).

Speaking of things about nothing (see what I did there?), The combo pack of The Neverending Story and Where the Wild Things Are on Blu-Ray is $7.89, which is actually cheaper than buying either movie separately.

For PC Gamers who somehow don't have it, The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim Legendary Edition is $10 (75% off) for the digital edition.

And Amazon's once again got a book coupon, this time for $5 off a $15 purchase, using promo code GIFTBOOK. And yes, all the big core D&D books qualify and most are already on sale (down from $49.95 to $29.95), and there are good deals on some other systems (like Pathfinder), too. And, of course, there's the slew of "regular" books that qualify for this as well. The point is, cheap books.
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Email read this morning indicates that work has blown up even more than it already had been, so, super quick. (Note to self: write down your thoughts about Moana sometime. Possibly also the Hamilton Mixtape.)

barely spoilers )

"I heard there was a baby"

Dec. 3rd, 2016 03:25 am
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Kit happenings today:

1) Our crib mattress board has three height options. It's been on the middle one since Kit was born; we got a thick mattress and a crib bumper that meant the top setting was never quite workable. Today they were sitting in the crib and pulled up to standing without any help, and I realized that the crib rail came up to only slightly higher than their waist. I promptly took them out of the crib and lowered the mattress to the lowest setting for safety. As soon as I put them back in, they figured out how to pull up to standing again, which is good—I really didn't want to respond to their accomplishment by making it harder for them to accomplish things. They generally seem quite happy with the change. Such an amiable child.

2) X pointed out that Kit really likes our laptops and phones because they see us using them so much, and suggested that we do more non-digital things with the baby. So this evening Kit and I cuddled up on the couch and read books together. We probably spent most of an hour like that, me reading an advance copy of Daniel José Older's Battle Hill Bolero (very good), Kit playing with and drooling on That's Not My Owl (they adore that whole series of books). Occasionally I'd take pictures or answer a text, and while my hands were occupied Kit would steal my book. They liked turning it upside down and tugging at the cover and opening it to the middle and attempting to eat it. I encouraged all these things except the last one. It was one of the best hours of my life.

This morning I got to bed late because the baby had woken up and all I wanted to do was spend time with them, and then I barely got any work done because the baby was home from daycare (J's parents were here in the morning and early afternoon) and all I wanted to do was spend more time with them. Right now they're fast asleep and I'm resisting the urge to go into their room and scoop them up; it's great that they're sleeping so well lately but it means we don't get our mid-night cuddle time and I miss it. I just can't get enough of this happy cuddly squeaky squealy serious hard-working baby.

Aw, they just woke up babbling happily and I could totally justify going in to cuddle them. But I don't want to go in because we're trying to encourage them to go back to sleep on their own when they wake up. Nnnngh. I knew parenting would take willpower but was not aware it would take this particular kind of willpower!

EDIT: They started to get fussy so I indulged in some cuddling. Such a good snuggly baby.

Am I the only person

Dec. 2nd, 2016 09:20 pm
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Who looks to my Amazon order history whenever I have to figure out my prior addresses for some kind of application?

Spiritual Prepping

Dec. 2nd, 2016 04:29 pm
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I ran across this today: We’re heading into dark times. This is how to be your own light in the Age of Trump with advice like
  • Write down what you value; what standards you hold for yourself and for others. Write about your dreams for the future and your hopes for your children. Write about the struggle of your ancestors and how the hardship they overcame shaped the person you are today.
  • Write your biography, write down your memories. Because if you do not do it now, you may forget.
  • Write a list of things you would never do. Because it is possible that in the next year, you will do them.
  • Write a list of things you would never believe. Because it is possible that in the next year, you will either believe them or be forced to say you believe them.
And I remembered that we have a song for that. Nearly 20 years ago, Leigh Ann Hussey released her album Homebrew, with The Burning Times.

I wish there were a remastered version )

Just spit it out

Dec. 2nd, 2016 03:33 pm
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1) I'm glad to hear about the variety of different ways people are making statements (and targeting Pence rather than Trump since giving him any kind of attention just gives him what he wants). Trevor Noah is dead right in labeling him a toddler having tantrums.

Speaking of Noah, I couldn't even watch this interview because I kept wanting to throw things at the TV. He may become more legendary for his patience than anything else.

2) This case is a good reminder that "copyright law" is not there primarily to benefit the artist or creator, but rather the copyright owner, who in many cases is a large corporation with a lot more resources than the artists themselves. Even with the U.S. law allowing only 35 years, that means a lot of people will never get their copyrights back in their lifetimes.

3) Unlike the UK I think there is very little discussion or thought about tea in the U.S., where coffee remains the dominant beverage. I declare that because even non-food establishments offer coffee, sometimes even for free. This is not the case with tea, soft drinks, or other beverages, and sometimes not even water. So I thought I'd horrify my non-U.S. readers with the following (sorry this post is too late for Halloween). Read more... )

My experience is that people are far more likely to drink iced tea in the U.S. than hot tea. How does that compare to other places? Also, I think very few people tend to drink it with milk compared to how many coffee drinkers do so. Read more... )

4) HT to Petzi for an article with lots of recommendations for holiday gifts that will make a difference.

[personal profile] yendi
Today's a touch hectic, but it seems that just about every deal from yesterday's post that wasn't a Deal of the Day is active, so yay!

Only three deals I had time to highlight, but they're all pretty solid:

The major Deal of the Day will nab you either the Extended Edition Lord of the Rings Trilogy on Blu-Ray for $26.49 (78% off) or the Extended Edition of The Hobbit Trilogy for $38.99 (61% off). As some of you know, I'm decidedly NOT a Tolkien (on paper or screen), but some of y'all are, so enjoy!

I am a James Bond fan, though, and the Ultimate James Bond Collection on Blu-Ray/Digital for $99.99 (33% off) is a hell of a nice deal (note that Spectre is now included in the set).

And in the "luxury beauty" section of Amazon, you can spend $50 and get a $25 credit for more from the same section.

Sidetracks - December 2, 2016

Dec. 2nd, 2016 11:59 am
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Sidetracks is a collaborative project featuring various essays, videos, reviews, or other Internet content that we want to share with each other. All past and current links for the Sidetracks project can be found in our Sidetracks tag.


Read more... )

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Awkward Live Chat Today

Dec. 2nd, 2016 03:07 pm
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Posted by JenniferP

Send your short questions on Patreon or Twitter (with the hashtag #awkwardchat) today – I’ll answer as many as I can before noon.

Last year, my aunt wrote to me that I’m going to hell for being gay. What do I say to her at grandpa’s funeral?

I’m sorry for the loss of your grandpa. That’s hard enough without adding the extreme awkwardness of bigotry and hellfire to it!

Fantasy answer: “See you there, you crusty bigot.”

Actual answer: It’s okay to completely keep your distance from her and stick with the family you trust. Imagine she is a stranger or work acquaintance if you must interact with her briefly – express sympathies, keep the topic of conversation on your Grandpa and the loss to the family, try not to get drawn into a lengthy conversation.

If she seeks you out and either tries to perform a close relationship with you (without actually repairing the relationship with an apology) or tries to renew or justify her mean words, try this, “I’m very sad about Grandpa and so sorry for the loss you must be feeling. I’m still very angry about the hurtful letter you sent me last year and we are not friends right now – let’s drop this for now and talk another time when you’re ready to apologize.” Then move away, and remember, she created the awkwardness.

Family doesn’t listen when I say Anxiety Disorder prevents me frm driving. Insists I get license. Am 29 in therapy. Scripts pls.

First step is probably to talk to your therapist specifically about this, and see if they will generate some kind of letter to your family (that can help make it “official”) and/or help you fashion & practice scripts.

Scripts that come to mind for now: “I’m seeking medical help so that I hopefully can drive at some point, but I’m not there yet. It hurts that you don’t believe me, but whether or not you believe me, I still cannot be a safe driver at this time.

I am crossing all my fingers & toes that you live somewhere with decent public transportation.

You know someone likes you/may want to date you; you’re not sure if you feel the same. How do you figure out if you like them?

One way is to go on a date if they ask you to and see if you enjoy it and want to do it again sometime. Remember: Going on a date doesn’t mean you are agreeing to “feelings” or “a relationship” or “returning their interest at the exact same level.” It’s okay to be undecided and give it time to develop or not.

I’m going to be starting my own business in the next year (excited squees!) What are some good scripts for those well-meaning, advice-pushing folk whom I love but really don’t know what they’re talking about (or may know what they’re talking about, but are not people I wish to discuss my business/financials with)?

How exciting for you!

For the “don’t know what they’re talking about” crowd, try some version of, “Thanks for the tips!” + a subject chance to something they are the expert on.

For example, “Thanks for the tips, Dad! I’m very excited to jump in and get started. By the way, I’ve been thinking about replacing the furnace at my place, what should I look for?

When the people probably do know what they’re talking about, try this: “Wow, I’d love to pick your brain in detail about this sometime when I’m further along in the process and I’m not in ‘holiday mode’/’having fun mode’/’celebration mode’/’relaxing mode’/’vacation mode’/’calm before the storm’ mode.” You want to communicate “I can tell you have valuable insights/I’m not in the right frame-of-mind to receive these oh-so-valuable insights, let’s wait until I’m not hopped up on holiday punch and can take notes!”

By complimenting people it disarms potential conflict, and saying “thanks I’ll think about it” is literally the fastest & most efficient way to get past any kind of unwanted advice, even if the advice is total shite and the intentions of the person are not good. Since you love these people I think it pays to think of their intrusions as evidence that they are excited for you – reward the excitement with compliments and thanks and channel the firehose of “expertise” away from the present moment.

How to approach academic group work when you think/know you’d do it fine/better on your own.

If you know you’d absorb the material you’re supposed to learn just fine on your own, and you know you can handle the writing and presentation skills involved, then use the project to level up skills group work is purportedly there to teach and model those skills for your partners-in-group-project-heck:

  • Delegating/Dividing up tasks
  • Listening/Inclusion
  • Consistent communication
  • Accountability
  • Constructive disagreement & critique
  • Peer-management
  • Assertiveness

It takes skill & practice to be gentle-but-firm with a teammate who isn’t pulling their weight, like, “Hey, you’ve been missing deadlines and group project meetings and it’s making me stressed that we’re not going to finish on time – what’s your plan for catching up?” or “Hey, you keep vetoing suggestions I make without offering an alternative solution. Can we make a rule that we don’t veto anything without proposing an alternate plan?” or “I have a lot of outside commitments right now, I really need meetings to start and end on time, thanks” or “If we try to run something by you and you don’t respond to any emails or texts within 48 hours, you kind of lose your vote” or “I don’t really understand your take on this, but I want to! Can you walk me through it again?” 

I think that 99% of professors know who is really pulling the weight on group projects and who is not and the learning experience is not so much about the specific material or individual excellence as it is preparation for white collar working environments which are like one lifelong group project.

I feel like every single person I know is still in shock from the election. How do we support one another, and how do we seek out support, when everyone is exhausted and terrified? The Ring Theory breaks down when everyone is at the center of the crisis at once.

Working on this one….back soon.

 

 

 


Changelog Digest for Thu, Dec 1

Dec. 1st, 2016 01:22 pm
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355c58b: Commit 355c58b
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Incorporate server functionality previously handled by Perlbal.

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10% bonus on December points purchases.

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Dec. 1st, 2016 12:14 pm
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