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So, I got my annual review and raise. I got high marks on most everything, with the lowest on the "Relationships" section:
To some, Tony seems quiet, shy, intense. He strikes others as arrogant and distant.
Why thank you for telling me this! I have never heard this in my entire life! Seriously, I know how I come across to some, particularly those I don't know well, and I've had these exact descriptions repeated to me since high school. I'm used to it, why can't they be?
More interesting was the following suggestion:
He might see if anyone wants to order dinner with him. [A gesture like this] would show he cares about members of the team.
Well, (A) I bring my own lunch to work every night due to the fact that (B) there aren't really a whole hell of a lot of good restaurants open down town at three in the morning when I eat!!!
I was heartened by the fact that the coworkers with whom I work more consistently and with whom I get along better thought most of this to be a load of crap as well (they didn't believe the dinner suggestion until I showed it to them), so I suspect that the "distant" and "arrogant" comments come more from those with whom I have only passing contact at the beginning and end of my shift.
MonNYTX: 5. Good theme, but some of the other clues were iffy. MonLATX: 5:15. TueNYTX: 8:45. Great work with the theme, but is "Long Island Railroad stop" really a fair clue for out-of-towners? TueLATX: 7:45.
To some, Tony seems quiet, shy, intense. He strikes others as arrogant and distant.
Why thank you for telling me this! I have never heard this in my entire life! Seriously, I know how I come across to some, particularly those I don't know well, and I've had these exact descriptions repeated to me since high school. I'm used to it, why can't they be?
More interesting was the following suggestion:
He might see if anyone wants to order dinner with him. [A gesture like this] would show he cares about members of the team.
Well, (A) I bring my own lunch to work every night due to the fact that (B) there aren't really a whole hell of a lot of good restaurants open down town at three in the morning when I eat!!!
I was heartened by the fact that the coworkers with whom I work more consistently and with whom I get along better thought most of this to be a load of crap as well (they didn't believe the dinner suggestion until I showed it to them), so I suspect that the "distant" and "arrogant" comments come more from those with whom I have only passing contact at the beginning and end of my shift.
MonNYTX: 5. Good theme, but some of the other clues were iffy. MonLATX: 5:15. TueNYTX: 8:45. Great work with the theme, but is "Long Island Railroad stop" really a fair clue for out-of-towners? TueLATX: 7:45.
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The same sorts of things were said about me in my 360 degree review a year and a half ago. At first, my reaction was "fuck 'em!" But it really gave me pause. I can't just say "fuck 'em" because I have to *work* with these people. We have to get along well enough to work together, whether we like each other or not.
I don't *want* to come across like that, it's inadvertent. so I sympathize, and I'm glad your closer orkers know how cool you are. :)